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I'm noticing that it feels exceedingly vulnerable to name needs out loud or in writing. Even naming them to myself comes with shame.

Specifically, I'm noticing needs for validation and reassurance, and at the same time it feels inappropriate to have those needs, much less talk about them, especially in response to someone else's words. The jackals say I'm being narcissistic and thinking about myself when I'm supposed to be providing something for someone else, and also they're not really "needs," more like "urgent wants."

Any comments about that aspect of working with needs? Has Marshall written about that? I don't remember it being specifically addressed in his book, but it's been a while since I read it.
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