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In listening to NVC trainings, I often hear the phrase "baby giraffe" to describe a person just learning the feelings/needs jargon and the "Are You Feeling _____ because you need _____?" framework.  I think there's more to it than that- baby giraffes are in the process of learning how to relate to their needs from a perspective of generosity rather than weakness. 

Today, I heard a new phrase- "teenage giraffe." Sometimes, the teenage giraffe gets it right, and can delight in his or her growth and freedom. On the other hand, there's the obnoxious teenage giraffe. I imagine they're the ones who "assert their authenticity*" at all costs. After years of repressing yourself from sharing freely with others, I can see how over-expressing is a step that helps one break the cycle.

I imagine teenage giraffes are also the ones who yearn to share NVC with the world, but are still a little ungainly in its execution. Sadly, these teenagers can turn folks away from NVC. 

Well, I'm proud to be a teenage giraffe. I think I might use this week to explore what it would mean to "assert my authenticity" at all costs.  It doesn't mean I have to A my A, but I can create thought experiments about what might happen if I did.

*I put this in quotes because I'm not sure what it means. I imagine it means always stopping people when I get bored with what they say, or interject my feelings and needs without considering how their reactions to it might feed or not feed me. Those are important skills that I need to develop (well, interjecting my feelings and needs, but I don't want to develop not-consideration). 

Date: 2012-08-14 09:11 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sonia
Both the idea of teenage giraffes and your pride in that identity made me smile. I love the idea of giving yourself permission to assert your authenticity. I hope you experience lots of delight and feelings of freedom from the experiment.

I don't know where I fall on the age spectrum of giraffe-ness. I've certainly had people get very, very offended in response to my saying, "I can't listen any more right now." Something in me thinks that has more to do with men seeing women as receptacles than with problems with my communication style.

I didn't have a typical American teen-hood, but it seems to be about the freedom to experiment and try things on for size. Sounds like fun!
Edited (Added American as a qualifier on teen-hood. Even here, they vary a lot by race, class, etc.) Date: 2012-08-14 09:12 pm (UTC)

Date: 2012-08-15 09:01 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] elainegrey
Thank you for continuing to share your giraffe experiences!

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